The holiday season is
usually thought of as a happy, joyous time, spent family and friends.
Although the holidays may be full of excitement, they are also full of
stress and for some, distress. Holiday stress may be caused by the
change in your normal routine, fatigue, unrealistic expectations,
over-commercialization, and family concerns. To reduce stress consider
- Know your spending
limits. Do not let yourself get caught up in the media produced
shopping frenzy. A small, and personal gift is more meaningful that
an impersonal expensive one.
- Be yourself. Don't
pressure yourself to be the idealized image portrayed in the holiday
movies or commercials. Keep expectations manageable. Set limits for
yourself and your children. Decide on a few holiday traditions that
are truly important to your family and make them a priority.
- Don't try to make
this holiday session the best ever or try to recreate a previous
holiday. Each holiday is different and can be enjoyed in its own
way. Do something for someone else. Giving to the less fortunate
helps us remember the true meaning of the holidays.
- If you have
experienced a loss and want to avoid festivities because they are
out of sync with how you really feel, share your feelings with your
friends. They often want to help, but are not sure how. By sharing
your feelings and needs, you are allowing them to understand and to
give to you, thus relieving pressure from all of you.
A Christmas Wish List
is just that, a wish list. Do not think that you have to buy your
child every thing that he or she wishes for. Choose only the items
that your child will enjoy or benefit from the most. Quality versus
quantity is a good guideline to follow.
- Don't drink too
much. Excessive drinking can make you feel depressed. Spend time
with people who are supportive and who care about you. Balance the
time spent with those you feel obligated to socialize with, with
those you enjoy and truly want to be with.
- Find time for
yourself. Enjoy life and the wonder of the season.
- Get plenty of rest.
If you continue to feel
stressed or have "holiday blues", your feelings may be more about
other issues than the holidays. Consider talking to a close friend,
spouse, or counselor about your feelings.
Have a Happy Holiday